Remember Who You Were Before the World Told You Who to Be?
- Kaye Innahat

- Mar 2
- 3 min read
When life gets overwhelming, it’s easy to lose sight of who we truly are beneath the noise. The pressures of adulthood, heartbreak, burnout, and people-pleasing can bury the vibrant, creative soul we once knew. But healing doesn’t always mean becoming someone new. Sometimes, it means reconnecting with the little girl who already knew how to laugh, dream, create, and love herself before life got loud.
Revisiting Childhood Joys as a Path to Healing
I remember the simple pleasures that filled my childhood with light. Playing Jax on the sidewalk, jumping rope with friends until our legs ached, and the thrill of hand games that made time fly. Basketball games in the street with my cousins weren’t just about competition; they were moments of pure joy and freedom.
These memories aren’t just nostalgia—they are keys to rediscovering parts of ourselves that still exist beneath the layers of adult responsibilities. When I started to feel disconnected, I made a point to bring back these small joys. I bought a jump rope and challenged myself to remember the rhythm. I bought a pack of Twizzlers, my favorite childhood snack, and let myself savor the sweetness without guilt.
The Comfort of Saturday Morning Cartoons
Saturday mornings were sacred. Shows like Doug, Scooby Doo, and Bobby’s World weren’t just entertainment; they were a comforting ritual that marked the start of a carefree day. Watching those cartoons again as an adult felt like stepping into a warm hug from the past.
If you’re feeling worn down, try setting aside time to watch a favorite childhood show or movie. It’s not about escaping reality but about reconnecting with the innocence and wonder you once carried.
Playing Outside Until the Streetlights Came On
There was a magic in playing outside until the streetlights flickered on, signaling the end of the day. The fresh air, the sound of laughter echoing down the block, and the feeling of endless time made those evenings unforgettable.
Today, I make it a point to spend time outdoors, whether it’s a walk in the park or just sitting on my porch watching the sunset. Recreating that sense of freedom helps me breathe easier and remember that life can be simple and joyful.
Rediscovering Childhood Hobbies
Roller skating was another favorite pastime. The wind in my hair and the rhythm of wheels on pavement made me feel unstoppable. I recently dusted off my old skates and took a few laps around the neighborhood. It was clumsy at first, but the exhilaration reminded me of a fearless part of myself.
Reading books for fun was a daily habit, too. I loved getting lost in stories and watching Reading Rainbow on PBS. Now, I carve out time to read just for pleasure, without any pressure or judgment.
Dancing in my bedroom to TLC or Immature was my way of expressing myself freely. I still play those songs and dance like no one’s watching. It’s a small act of rebellion against the seriousness adulthood demands.
Simple Acts of Self-Love from Childhood
Making friendship bracelets, taking bubble baths, and journaling without judgment were ways I nurtured myself as a child. These acts may seem small, but they carry powerful messages of care and creativity.
I started journaling again, not to analyze or fix anything, but to let my thoughts flow freely. It’s a reminder that my feelings are valid and that I deserve kindness—from myself most of all.
Dreaming Big Again
As a child, my dreams were boundless. I imagined worlds, careers, and adventures without limits. Somewhere along the way, those dreams got buried under practicality and fear.
Reconnecting with that dreamer inside me has been healing. I allow myself to dream big again, knowing that those dreams are part of who I am. It’s not about achieving everything but about honoring the hope and possibility that live within.
How to Start Reconnecting with Your Childhood Self
Make a list of things you loved doing as a child. Pick one to try this week.
Create a ritual like Saturday morning cartoons or a bubble bath to bring comfort.
Find your favorite childhood snack and enjoy it mindfully.
Spend time outside in a way that feels playful, not like exercise.
Journal without judgment—write what comes to mind, no editing.
Dance to your favorite childhood songs and let yourself move freely.
Allow yourself to dream without limits, even if it feels scary.
Healing Through Remembering
Healing isn’t always about changing who you are. Sometimes, it’s about peeling back the layers and remembering the little girl who already knew how to laugh, dream, create, and love herself. When you reconnect with that version of yourself, you find strength, joy, and a clearer sense of who you want to be moving forward.
Take a moment today to remember who you were before the world told you who to be. Let that memory guide you back to yourself.



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